Inside the Wedding Guest: A Guide to Doing it Right

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Guest Blogger and Kimberly Rose Events Lead Planner, Brooke Jelniker, shares an exclusive inside scoop on how to be the best bridesmaid and wedding guest, even when you just want to stay at home in your sweats and not go to anther wedding.

Over the past year and a half I have personally attended nine weddings, three bachelorette parties, and three bridal showers. I am currently broke and wondering how I accumulated so many friends that decided to get married at the same time. With each wedding I have learned some very valuable and entertaining lessons. A friend of mine told me to write a book, but since I have the attention span of a 6 year old on Christmas, I will simply blog.

1. Don't Wait Until the Last Minute - I'm serious. As a professional bridesmaid (I gave myself that title), and an event coordinator in the wedding industry, I would urge you to pick up your bridesmaid dress more than a couple weeks before the wedding. If you need to get it fitted but decide to wait until the last possible second then I hope you have either lost that extra weight or still keep in touch with your grandma to help you sew on some extra fabric. Just make an appointment at David's Bridal (trust me you want one) and get your single butt in there. You'll thank me later.

Photo Cred: 11th Door Photography

Photo Cred: 11th Door Photography

2. Don’t be boring - When it comes to gifts for bridal showers, I have found it to be much more fun to give the bride/couple a customized gift. My favorite place to shop for these gifts is Etsy (because it's adorable and I am obsessed). After watching one of my friends receive 17 pairs of lingerie that she will probably never take the tag off of, I decided to get creative. You should too.

Photo Cred: Catherine Jeter Photography

Photo Cred: Catherine Jeter Photography

3. Bachelorette Parties Don't Have Break The Bank - I threw my friend an extremely fun (I'm biased) bachelorette party for under $200 per person. It can be done. The lesson with these parties... less is more. When I first began planning I thought that I had to fill every second with an activity. After being scolded by the other bridesmaids (rightly so) I toned down the festivities a bit and it was still just as fun. At the end of the day, the bride just wants to spend time with "her girls" and any simple activity can be entertaining. The best kinds of games are the free ones, like getting the groom in on a game or having bridal party challenges when you go out each night.

4. Dance At The Wedding - I beg you. Nothing is worse than a half empty dance floor at what is supposed to be "the best day" of a couples life. The reception is the most anticipated part of the night so have fun and get out there. And if you're not feeling the music, then go request your song. If the DJ doesn't play it then just continually stare at him/her until the message is received. It works trust me.

Photo Cred: Danielle Lirette Photography

Photo Cred: Danielle Lirette Photography

5. Don't Be Drama - It's not your day, drop the ego for a few hours. If you are in the wedding or simply a guest, keep your drama (and very long stories about your life) at the door. No one wants to hear about your personal problems on someone's happy day. So please don't be selfish.

To sum up this slightly random blog... enjoy the wedding process! If you are the bride then this will be one of the best days of your life, so don’t waste time on small things that you won’t remember in a few years! If you are in the wedding or simply a guest in the audience, then please act like an adult (I know this is asking a lot) when it comes to someone's wedding but also have fun! A wedding is one of the happiest environments because it is a gathering of people that genuinely care about each other. Each person in attendance wants to best for the couple, and the love that you can see in the couples' eyes truly makes it all worth it!

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Melanie Jannicelli